Many a man has been at a bar, spotted an attractive woman and thought to himself, “Wow! She really works those breasts, bouncy bouncy.”
Next, he chugged down some liquid courage and strutted up to her. But within a blink of an eye, she shot him down.
With his self-esteem fried to cinders, he limped away.
Maybe you’ve been there before? I know I have. I used to be so scared to pick up women that I’d imagine them pointing out all of my physical flaws. How cool is that – I’d reject myself before she got a chance to reject me.
Meeting and approaching women is no easy business for those who haven’t mastered the necessary skills. Let’s take a look at why this is so.
Here’s the thing: more often than not, men pick up women for their beauty alone – and women are well aware of this. They can entrap a man without making a single peep.
Half the time, even if you find them less attractive than the stench of foot and ass combined, they’ll still genuinely believe you’re hitting on them.
But this, my friend, is about to change…
Catching a glimpse of the average man approaching a woman is a grizzly sight to behold. Think of the woman as a skilled fisherman with something irresistible hanging from her pole and the guy as a dumb fish who’s minutes away from being turned into her dinner.
He may still have some fight in him. But, alas, he doesn’t have a chance. (However, if she sees him as a piece of female eye-candy, there may be a glimmer of hope.)
I’m also a fish – but an F-ed up, twisted, alien barracuda. Just when they feel that they have me on their hook I start throwing bait at them.
They start chomping away at the bait and, then, bam – they’re on my hook and I’m reeling them in.
Here’s an example. When at a nightclub or bar, my eyes rove around looking for a high foot traffic area – near the ladies room or entrance to the smoking patio, for example. When a girl struts past me I’ll bump her with my elbow.
And then in an overdramatic and offended tone I’ll utter: “Ow…you hurt me.”
Almost always , the woman will put her paw on my shoulder and say, “Oh my… I’m so sorry.”
I’ll usually shoot back with, “You can touch me but…only if you tell me an interesting story or a funny joke.”
This is not only a bundle of fun but also a powerful means of emotionally hooking a woman.
When the average man’s groin fills with lust for a sexy vixen, he starts coming up with ways to win her over.
Put simply, she has them emotionally hooked and she knows it. Just about anything they do to impress her, is a sign she is reeling them in even closer.
With my example above, however, I’m doing the opposite. Instead of me proving myself to her, I’m making her prove herself to me. I’m the sought after Prize, not her.
In all sexual interactions, only one person can be the Prize. Two people can’t chase each other at the same time.
With few exception excluded, you want to set the frame that you’re the Prize and the woman is the suitor trying to win you over.
Josh Lubens, a world famous dating expert, writes under the pseudonym Swinggcat and has coached men how to pick up women for over a decade. On his website, you can get free pick up lines that actually work.
